Marty and I read this one together. We just finished "The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene Brown.
Quick Take: Good for anyone struggling to love themselves (So, all of us), but won’t make my Top 10 list.
Overall, I enjoyed the book. I’m sure all of us can identify with the main idea:
To live a happy, fulfilled life I need to believe that despite my flaws, I am worthy of love and belonging.
But, there were few chapters I couldn’t really identify with. Also, I think the main points could have been covered in about 30 pages instead of 160.
Having said that, there were several points in the book that resonated with me. Here are some of my favourites:
“The greatest challenge for most of us is believing that we are worthy now, right this minute. … Not if. Not when. We are worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is.”
“Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. It’s a shield.”
Quoting Laura Williams: “Comparison is the thief of happiness.”
“Overcoming self-doubt is all about believing we’re enough and letting go of what the world says we’re supposed to be and supposed to call ourselves.”
“Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It’s about cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”